On speaking to my contact in located in New York City, she has confirmed the effects of inequity and how it affects excellence in a child's learning process.
She spoke about the effects of children coming from single parent homes, that after the parent has come from work most of the time they are rushing to get home and have no time for the child, their homework, or communicating with the child. Most times the parent ends up shouting at the child, or talking at the child not rather than talking to the child and not hearing their opinions. Children are thereby highly affected by the lack of relationship they have been developing with their parent, and the continuity of following orders and therefore this affects their intellectual processing of thinking and reasoning for themselves.
Another example would be that of foster children who do not have necessarily have the stability of a family, and therefore it affects their learning and social skills in school. They look for attention in different forms and ways, and therefore end up in trouble or being disruptive in class not only affecting themselves but the others in the class.
The inequity in the lives of the children and in schools, do affect the learning process of the children and therefore the excellence is not at the highest standard as they should be.
Hello Kiendra,
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you were able to get in touch with someone, I still haven't received a reply from anyone. It is sad that children do not have any control over many of these inequities that usually end up affecting them throughout their lives. Some of these parents may not realize the long term consequences some of their actions have and will continue to have on their children.
Karina
Hi Kiendra,
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your discussion with your early childhood contact. I think that it is wonderful that you are able to communicate with someone in this field. I am sure you will get a lot of great information. I hope you are able to keep in touch with them beyond this class. I work as a nanny and I spend 12 hours per day with the children. The only time they see their parents is for three hours per night after they get home from work until they go to bed. I have a very strong bond with the children as I am with them everyday yet they do act up when they are in their parents care. This may be them needing attention from their parents. Of course I am thankful for my job and I love spending my time with the children but I think they would benefit from having a little more time and attention from their own parents.
Hello Kiendra,
ReplyDeleteGlad you were able to make a connection. After reading your post, I realize that unfortunately this scenario seems to be a way of life all over. Parents have so much on their plate in today's society, that this seems to be somewhat of the norm, at least for the children I have the experience of teaching. What can we do to try and help these parents understand that they are force within their child's life and should be more positive than negative?
Your discussion with your contact has brought up excellent points of discussion that the relationship of the child with their parents can affect the child in many ways. From personal experience I have seen the effects of instability within a home environment on the development of children. My two youngest brothers were adopted out of the foster care system and still are making strides to overcome some of the developmental delays that have resulted from their previous environments.
ReplyDeleteKiendra,
ReplyDeleteThat is so awesome that you have connected with somebody and discussed the issues we are currently learning about and researching. The communication between parent and child in a stressful situation can be so detrimental to their health, growth and development. When parents have trouble talking their child on a daily basis because of their stress, it takes a toll on their development. They do not gain the social and emotional skills they should be developing. The first place a child learns is at home and if they are not getting that interaction, they struggle to gain those positive social and emotional skills.
I too have seen these types of relationships with parents and students. Unfortunately many of the students in the school I teach spend more time at school with their teachers than they do at home with their parents. I have even seen a child become upset and cry because they did not want to go home, but wanted to stay at school.
ReplyDeleteKiendra,
ReplyDeleteI agree that often time parents are busy and they don't always talk the time to just talk to their child and listen to their opinions. Do you think this could also have something to do with the culture? My dad always told me when he was growing up it was seen as a sign of disrespect to talk back of voice your opinion to an adult. He was always told to just do as he was told.